birds, bees, ashes

wow it’s been a long time since i posted. i’ve been pretty busy managing life with my pack of children. i’ve been processing our newfound status as an alternative family. i had a big talk with legoboy about how babies are made and about how dosmamas’ baby was made. he asked if the baby will look like dada. i guess he got it. i said we’d have to wait and see.

we are hoping he doesnt decide to tell everybody at school that his dad rubbed his penis and sperm came out and he gave it to our friends and they used a thingy to put it in s’s vagina and a baby grew. that would surely raise a few eyebrows. for the most part our friends dont know about the donation. none of our family members know.

i decided not to go for the birth. it seems to be the right decision. i am very much looking forward to making the little lady’s acquaintance however.

totally different subject: legoboy asked what happened to charlotte after she died. specifically he asked if she was thrown away. gulp. i gave him the straight story about burials and cremations. i told him we had her cremated. i had to use the word burned. there was really no way to sugar coat it. naturally he asked to see her ashes. i showed him and monstergirl. i have no plans to show them her photo. maybe if we get the photos improved then they can see them. i think they’d be pretty freaked out by how brownish-purple she is. i was. i still am.

gotta run.

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~ by complicatedmama on April 26, 2008.

2 Responses to “birds, bees, ashes”

  1. Good to have you back, complicated mama!

    Glad that everything is going pretty well for you all.

  2. Good to ‘see’ you again 🙂
    I don’t know how old your kiddos are, but I never thought I’d show Rory (6yrs old) But he begged to see Caden before he was buried, and although i tried to talk him out of it, he was adamant, so i took him to see Caden at the funeral home. Now he LOVES looking at Caden’s photos.
    I think kids, more than us, take things in their stride.
    I’m Certainly not trying to tell you what you should do…just sharing what we did. I was more worried about how Rory would react, and he totally stunned me by not being bothered by it.

    (there are places online that can touch up photos for free if you decide you want to. I’ve seen some and they come out really well)

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